Its a word I saw used today in an article on Kim Kardashian. She was apparently robbed in her apartment in France somewhere. Her husband Kanye West was live on stage at one of his concerts. So he quit the concert midway and ran to her. Beautiful. She apparently lost millions and that may include her $6MILLION diamond engagement ring.

The world reacted.

Twitter peeps mocked her. Talk show comedian, James Corden told the world to “leave her alone”.

Then I saw the word. Schadenfreude which means “pleasure derived by someone from another person’s misfortune”. And I mused the word and got totally convicted.

I’ve had a few years which contained a fair amount of “unpleasantness”, and in it, and during these times, I have had a few cruel people and a few that have not fully been there for me when I thought they would. I have found that at times, I have derived pleasure at the times when THEY have have had misfortune. Not good.

I have been forgiven ALL of my sins, failings etc by Jesus and given eternal life. Should be enough don’t you think? I have the most beautiful family and live in the most incredible place in the world. I am part of an amazing church. Should be more than enough don’t you think?

Obviously its not. I have been convicted. When people fail around you we must continue to pick them up not keep them down. How many times should we forgive? Seventy x seven; seven times a day if they ask for forgiveness. “Increase my faith” the disciple bemoaned.

Yip. Sometimes I need my faith increased; my humility increased; my empathy increased. Sometimes I just need to grow up and stop being a prat.

Quit the Habit

A quote from James Baldwin, the great 20th-century writer….

“I imagine one of the reasons people cling to their hates so stubbornly is because they sense, once hate is gone, they will be forced to deal with pain.”

Hate is terrible
It leads nowhere except to death
Living, but dead

Hate comes from the word miseo where we get the word misery
Hate leads to bitterness. And they say that bitterness is “like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die”

Jesus said Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. If someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to them the other also. If someone takes your coat, do not withhold your shirt from them.

If you are suffering from hatred or bitterness then I’m truly sorry for you
I’m so sorry that someone, or something, has hurt you so much

I know how you feel. I really do. And as I found out, you have two choices:
Remain as you are
Forgive and pray for them

The first option is lose/lose. You remain trapped and the person who hurt you continues to win

Try forgiving them. Pray for them. It is so hard but please try. I know God will honour you and help you.

Jesus said he will forgive us ALL our sins and give us eternal life with him. He also said that if we can’t forgive then he can’t forgive us

Take the trade.
Jesus is prepared to take it all……Every last rotten bit of it

If you would like help or prayer please don’t hesitate to contact me.

I’m here for you.


Right, Just & Fair

The Proverbs of Solomon were written as expressed in his opening stanza:
for gaining wisdom and instruction;
for understanding words of insight;
for receiving instruction in prudent behavior,
doing what is right and just and fair

Doing what is right, just and fair.

You know what, sometimes these three things just don’t seem to go together, do they?

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